Hi, Reader.

It used to happen pretty often. I’d been sitting on my couch. Sun coming through the window. Nothing was wrong. Literally nothing.

And my jaw was clenched so tight you’d think I was about to take a hit.

Shoulders by my ears. Chest tight. Scanning the room like a secret service agent.

If you asked, “Hey, are you okay?”

I would have replied, “Yeah, I’m fine.” And I’d mean it. Because I’d been living in that state for so long that it just felt like…me.

That, my friend, is hypervigilance. And it is one of my biggest challenges.

Here’s the thing no one tells you about growing up with an alcoholic parent (or any kind of chaos, really):

Your body learned to sense danger before it arrived. That was your job as a kid. Read the room. Track the footsteps. Listen for the tone shift. Predict the unpredictable.

And your nervous system got really, really good at it.

The problem? It never turned off.

So now you’re 25 or 35 or 45 or 55 and someone closes a door a little too hard and your whole system lights up. Your spouse sends a text that says “Can we talk later?” and your brain runs fifteen disaster scenarios in ten seconds. You have a genuinely good day and then lie in bed that night feeling anxious. Like the good is just the setup for something terrible.

Your body is protecting you. From happiness.

(Go ahead and read that again. I’ll wait.)

I made a video about this.

An honest, here’s-what-actually-happened walkthrough of how I’ve been reducing my hypervigilance—practically, specifically, daily.

I talk about:

• Why walking became my #1 tool (and why it’s not just “exercise is good for you”)
• The sleep stuff I was getting completely wrong
• The journaling practice that replaced “affirmations” (because I thought those were corny, too)
• The one breathing technique that actually works in the moment
• And the part nobody warns you about: why peace is absolutely terrifying at first

That last one’s the kicker. Because the hardest part of this work wasn’t learning the techniques. It was accepting that the emergency is over. That I’m allowed to feel okay.

Still working on that, honestly. But I’m getting there. And I wanted to share what’s been helping in case you’re carrying this, too.

TWO THINGS FOR YOU:

1. Watch the full video. I walk you through everything: what I actually do, morning to evening, to calm down my nervous system.

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2. Grab the free Daily Hypervigilance Reset Checklist. I made a printable for you. It’s everything from the video organized into morning, midday, and evening, including the breathing techniques and the journaling prompts. Print it. Stick it on your fridge. Put it on your nightstand. Whatever works.

​Download it​

One more thing, Reader:

If any of this hit you in the chest—if you read the part about scanning the room or bracing for the good day to end and thought, “oh,” I want you to know: that is not a personality flaw. That is not “just being a worrier.”

That is a nervous system that kept you alive. It did its job.

And now you get to help it learn that the chapter has changed.

You’re not the kid standing in that kitchen anymore.

You’re already building something different. The fact that you’re reading this is proof.

Please reply to this email and let me know: When do you notice hypervigilance show up most in your life right now?

-Jody

P.S. If you know someone who needs this message, please send it to them. Sometimes the most powerful thing is just saying, “Hey, this reminded me of you.” Forward this email, encourage them to sign up for this newsletter or share the video. You might be the person who finally helps them see that the tension they’re carrying has a name and a way through.

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