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The Blueprint

In case no one told you this week

Published about 2 months ago • 2 min read

The Blueprint

Your first job is taking care of yourself.

with JODY LAMB

Hey, Reader.

You and I email each other because we probably have a lot in common.

You probably grew up with some kind of dysfunction in your home. An alcoholic parent or something else. You probably find yourself battling a tall list of challenges as an adult that you know stem from those experiences as a little one. You're probably great at putting yourself last. And you're probably determined to shed those issues or at least minimize their power in your life.

So in case no one told you yet this week: you're doing great.

The easy road is to block it all out. Keep pretending you didn't have a crappy start. Keep not thinking about how you regularly get in your own way or even flat-out sabotage your life.

You didn't take the easy road, Reader.

The fact that you're subscribed to an email of someone talking about this stuff tells me you are well on your way. Heck, you may even be further along on the path than me.

For those of us who do lots of things to heal and be healthy and create a good life, sometimes it's easy to lose sight of how far you've actually come.

So today I simply want to pause with you for a few minutes, Reader.

Think about when you were at the lowest point of your life. Not pleasant, I know.

But now think about where you are now.

Look at that distance. You did that.

If now is your lowest point, let me just say: your life can change in ways you cannot even imagine. I know because mine did. Keep going and get support.

Reply and tell me one thing that's different now than it was at your lowest. Even something small. I read every one and they make my whole day.

Take good care of yourself,

Jody

Resources and Recommendations

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Why Do I Feel on Edge When Nothing is Wrong?

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Discover the Best Books to Help You Heal and Thrive

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Putting Yourself First Isn’t Selfish. I’ll Prove It.

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The Memoir Update 📖

My Job Is Me will launch this September. I really can’t wait to share it with you! It’s the whole story of growing up with an alcoholic mother and with it, the chaos, the caretaking, and the years I spent believing I could love her into sobriety.

The best part is the story of what happened when I finally stopped trying to save her. This book isn’t just about addiction. It’s about what it costs to put everyone else first, and what becomes possible when you finally put yourself first.

If you grew up in any kind of dysfunction, or you've ever loved someone more than you've loved yourself, this book was written for you. More details coming soon.

👋 P.S. If you’re new here…

You're receiving this email because you signed up for it. You likely grew up being the responsible one and you're learning that your first job is actually taking care of yourself.

I'm Jody Lamb. I'm an author and memoirist who had to figure all of this out from scratch. I've been writing and making videos about it since 2009.

Every email is a mix of honest stories, practical stuff, and the kind of permission I wish someone had given me years ago.

My memoir, My Job Is Me, comes out September 2026.

I'm really glad you're here.

📖 Grab the free Blueprint: jodylamb.com/guide ​

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The Blueprint

by Jody Lamb

For people who grew up being the responsible one and are finally learning that their first job is taking care of themselves. A couple times a month, I share honest stories, practical insights, and the kind of permission you didn't know you needed — from someone who had to figure it all out from scratch. Join 2,400+ readers. My memoir comes out September 2026.

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