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Jody Lamb: The Empowered Path for Adult Children of Alcoholics

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The lies you were told as a kid…vs the truth about you

THE EMPOWERED PATH FOR ADULT CHILDREN OF ALCOHOLICS with JODY LAMB Hi, Reader. Here’s something wild: a lot of what was said to you in your childhood home wasn’t truth. Maybe your alcoholic parent (or another family member) said stuff like: “You’re never going to amount to anything.” “You aren’t smart enough.” “You’re not thin enough.” “You’re not as talented as your brother.” "You're not good enough at XYZ." Maybe they said this while they were drunk but didn’t mean it. My mother said things...

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THE EMPOWERED PATH FOR ADULT CHILDREN OF ALCOHOLICS with JODY LAMB Hi, Reader. It was during a simple round of putt-putt golf when I realized I had grief to process. At that point, I was already more than a decade into my healing journey, and it came out of nowhere. I’m terrible at mini golf but I still love it. No one’s ever in a bad mood at a mini golf place! All was well and then…bam. Flashback to a night playing putt-putt golf when I was in high school. I was out with friends, smiling and...

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THE EMPOWERED PATH FOR ADULT CHILDREN OF ALCOHOLICS with JODY LAMB Hi, Reader! Do you ever get that uneasy feeling? The one that makes you think: If everything’s good, something bad is probably coming. Maybe things are peaceful right now. But your mind won’t let you enjoy it. It keeps scanning for danger, even when none is there. It’s not pessimism. It’s hypervigilance, which is a survival skill your brain learned growing up in emotional chaos. It served you then. Now, you’re learning it’s...

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THE EMPOWERED PATH FOR ADULT CHILDREN OF ALCOHOLICS with JODY LAMB Reader, hi! This week, I shared something deeply personal: my full story of growing up with my mom’s alcoholism: how it shaped me, what I carried into adulthood, and how I finally began healing. 🎥You can watch it here: 👉My Mom’s Alcoholism: How It Shaped Me & How I Finally Healed If you grew up with an alcoholic parent or in a chaotic home, you’ll probably see yourself in parts of my story: Trying to hold everything together,...

THE EMPOWERED PATH FOR ADULT CHILDREN OF ALCOHOLICS with JODY LAMB This one brave step changed everything for me, Reader. Thinking about going to an Al-Anon or ACA support group meeting but feeling unsure, nervous, or wondering if it’ll even help? I completely get it.For years, I kept my mom’s alcoholism a secret and convinced myself I was fine.But I wasn’t. I was exhausted, overwhelmed, and quietly unraveling. Then I walked into my first Al-Anon meeting. Terrified. Here’s what happened next...

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THE EMPOWERED PATH FOR ADULT CHILDREN OF ALCOHOLICS BY JODY LAMB Hi, Reader. Some people say you shouldn’t think about the past. “Quit looking in the rearview mirror,” they advise. “Just focus on the future.”“You’re stuck in the past,” they declare. “Let bygones be bygones.” I don’t subscribe to that mindset. If you grew up with an alcoholic parent or in a home with dysfunction, ignoring the past is like trying to climb a mountain with a backpack full of bowling balls. Can you do it?...

THE EMPOWERED PATH FOR ADULT CHILDREN OF ALCOHOLICS BY JODY LAMB Hi, Reader. Do you feel like it’s your job to keep everyone happy?If someone’s upset, do you feel you need to fix it? You're not alone and there’s a reason you are this way. If you grew up in a home with an alcoholic parent—or any kind of emotional chaos—you probably learned this early: When someone’s mood shifted, everything else followed. So what did you do? You became the peacekeeper.The fixer.The one who smoothed it all over...

THE EMPOWERED PATH FOR ADULT CHILDREN OF ALCOHOLICS BY JODY LAMB Hey, Reader. In high school, I hoped living far from school would keep my friends from seeing my mom drunk. But one Saturday afternoon, they did.“Hi, is Jody home?”“Jodyyyy,” my mom yelled from the hallway, stumbling toward her room. I forced a smile and invited my friends in. Inside, I was burning with shame.My secret wasn’t a secret anymore. Ten years later, I stood in a liquor store, now an adult in a scratchy suit and...

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THE EMPOWERED PATH FOR ADULT CHILDREN OF ALCOHOLICS BY JODY LAMB Hi, Reader. In high school, I looked happy. I got good grades, played sports, joined student council, babysat, and worked a part-time job. I laughed a lot. Outside of our family and a few neighbors, almost no one knew the truth:I was constantly worried about my mom and her drinking, and I was barely sleeping at night. After college, I became a total workhorse logging 70–80 hour weeks for peanuts. I smiled. I appeared to love it....

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THE EMPOWERED PATH FOR ADULT CHILDREN OF ALCOHOLICS BY JODY LAMB Hi, Reader! Ever say, "Therapy? Not for me. It won’t help.” That was me years ago. But let me tell you…therapy has been one of the most healing tools in my journey as an adult child of an alcoholic. Not because it fixed everything overnight…but because I finally had someone who got it: someone who understood what it meant to grow up in a home filled with chaos, silence, or emotional neglect. But here’s the truth most people...